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Category Archives: Mindful Spending
The ways we spend and don’t spend money have such rich information about the real issue: our internal landscapes, and the places where they intersect with the outer world.
You’re standing in a store. You see something you want. Here is an opportunity to mindfully tend and water your internal landscape.
Move out of the aisle into a quiet spot, so you can consciously breathe a few times. Go into the rest room if you feel self-conscious. Now, find where it is in your body that you want. It may be a watering in your mouth, a warmth rising up your neck to your face.
This sensation is not good or bad. There is no need to figure out if the sensation is telling you “buy” or “don’t buy.” Your only job is to notice that this is what your body is creating in response to this desire, today, in this store.
Now see if any statements come into your mind:
The kids need this.
The kids would like this.
“You spend too much!”
I never get to have anything!
I should get this.
“You don’t need this!”
Check in again with your body. What are you feeling now, in your chest, your gut, your arms, your face?
There is no hidden agenda here of “spend less money, you over-consumer!” You may, in fact, do well to spend more, especially on certain things. How can you know how much to spend if you don’t know your internal landscape? Right now, we just want to see what’s there. You’ll learn how to access your own internal wisdom to guide you in spending decisions. If there is any “agenda,” it would be to learn to give yourself what truly satisfies you.
Readers, please comment:
- What was your immediate reaction, physical, emotional, or mental, to this meditation?
- Did you try it? If so, what happened for you?